Expecting Much

Expecting much from people is when you put so much trust and hope on people to do things and be there for you whenever you need them. Expecting them to be perfect or ever willing to support and care for you. It is very bad for one to expect much from colleagues, friends, ourselves, team and loved ones because they are bound to fail and some times our electronics also fail us when we least expected it thereby telling us that nothing is perfect on earth. Things that look perfect in your eyes might not be perfect in the eyes of your neighbor and everything has its own flaws. When people disappoint us , we feel very bad and heartbroken then we start looking for who to blame and who to judge or who to pity or console us, sometime we break up the relationship because we felt that our loved ones has broken our heart but have we paused for a while to ask ourselves why we feel bad when people disappoint us or why we cry and scream ‘’ I expected you to do it or understand’’, if you have not done that, please do now because you will be surprised to find out that you expected much from that person and expecting much leads to heartbreak, hurt and betrayal. Sometimes, we say people can’t hurt us because we don’t hurt them, which are lies because you don’t expect a bull not to attack you because you are vegetarian, the bull doesn’t care or know if you are a vegetarian or not that’s why you should expect the unexpected always to save yourself from being hurt or sad. Sometimes we expect much from ourselves that we feel bad when we can’t accomplish missions or goals then we feel like committing suicide or depressed but have you ever asked yourself whether the standard you chose is too impossible to accomplish within the period you carved out for it or whether you actually know what you want or what value it would add to your life? Would you accept it without blaming yourself when it comes out negative because it is that negativity that drives us mad? If you can’t accept then why would you choose such standard for yourself or what were you thinking? Were you expecting help or busy saying when you get to the bridge you will cross it, what if the bridge is broken? We should really learn how to stop putting much expectation on ourselves because stressing ourselves we do us more harm than good. CURBING MUCH EXPECTATIONS 1. Know what you want 2. Accept yourself as you are, picking out your flaws 3. Try to change your flaws by trying out new behavior 4. Repeat the behavior till they turn into habits {if you like the new behavior} 5. Fall in love with yourself 6. Decide what people can do for you to make you satisfied 7. Discuss it with them 8. Try to get a concrete answer from them like No or Yes 9. Examine your standard 10. Appreciate the ones you have done or the ones they did for you 11. Be responsible